8 Spots for Quickie Sex

Time is of the essence, but you and your boy want to find a spot to have some quickie sex before you have to get back to whatever it is you were going to do. But why ruin everything by heading to a safe place when you can do it right where you are? If you use a drop of discretion, public sex can be more fun and exciting than you ever thought possible. Here, now, are eight great places for quickie sex.

Love in an Elevator

An elevator is always a great place to engage in very quick sex, although going up or down several floors isn't usually sufficient time to get off. I recommend you stall the elevator (given that you don't trigger any alarms by doing so, unless you enjoy getting caught), penetrate, and when you're done and let the elevator run again, don't exit from the main floor.
Ideal position: Upright wheelbarrow (with him facing the wall, hold him up by his thighs, placing them on either side of your hips, while he holds on to the wall).

Big-Screen Love Scenes

As cliché as it sounds, a quickie in a movie theater is always a thrilling experience, and there's less chance of getting caught (unless of course, she's a screamer, but if it's horror flick, you'll be okay).
Ideal position: Him sitting on top of you, facing the screen.

Get Down, Get Down

Being out on a hot date talking about hot things with a hot boy will usually excite you, so if both of you are up for it, head to the darkest part of a nightclub, or even the bathroom, and get your bang on. Chances are people will hear or even see you, but if you have a little exhibitionist lurking within, it's all good.
Ideal position: Standing, upright doggy.

Step It Up

If your roommate's home, or you and your boyfriend only have 10 minutes to spare for a lunch date, head to the stairwell of a building with an elevator, preferably on a really high floor, and go crazy for a few minutes.
Ideal position: Missionary, with his back arched over a stair.

Drive It On Home

So it's not an original idea, but a quickie in the car, at a location where you won't be arrested for public indecency, can be a very memorable experience. If you're short on time but big on horniness, then do it while you're driving. Just kidding — take a few minutes to enjoy the view inside the car.
Ideal position: Doggy in the backseat.

Alley Sex Kittens

Before you begin envisioning rats and drunks, picture an alley behind a restaurant that isn't as filthy as those you see in movies. Ideally, he'd be wearing a short and the both of you could head to an alleyway just after dinner and before the show. Now that's what I call an intermission.
Ideal position: Standing up, with one leg wrapped around you.

Now, Get to Work!

Whether you're single and it's a hunk you've been eyeing at work or you're taken and your boy shows up in nothing but a trench coat , sometimes sex at the office is part of what makes life that much better. Make it part of your daily tasks, if possible.
Ideal position: His back against the wall, and his legs wrapped around your waist. Or, he can always spread 'em on your boss's desk.

Dress You Up in My Love

How many times has your boy got you all hot and bothered while he's changing in the dressing room of a clothing store? Well, why not add some kick to running errands by sneaking into the changing room with him to make shopping a whole lot less tedious?
Ideal position: Standing doggy.

How to Be a Really Good Gay Kisser

Sensual, sexy lip-to-lip is a lost art for many of us who find ourselves face-to-face with a new amour. And I'd put money on it that jaded pros of French kissing could stand to refine their technique. So let's get right down to the essentials of what will add a French flavor to your lips:

The Timing
The best lovers of the world (who, by the way, are rarely French) are masters of timing. They know how to milk the yearning by barely brushing their lips against yours, and they know precisely when to go in, full-throttled, for the kill. While sense of timing may be a genetically inherited trait shared among musicians, comedians and successful stockbrokers, one can learn the basics by paying close attention your partner's breathing. If he is panting and breathless, experiment with Exhibit A below. If your date has calm and predictable inhalations, give Exhibit B a shot. If your date isn't breathing, call 911. But first, let's review the basics:

The Mechanics
The first rule of French kissing is that every man has his own style. This style evolves out of a combination of your mouth's unique anatomy, including the length of your tongue and how far your jaw will open, as well as your level of sexual aggression and personal tastes. Regardless, the mechanics are all the same: Tilt your head to one side, part your lips, slip your tongue into your mate's parting lips, then explore what's inside. Breathe through your nose (or your mouth if your nose is stuffy). Once you've got the basic mechanics down, it's time to experiment with technique. Here are two worthy of experimentation:

Exhibit A (The Lusty French Kiss)

This kiss needs no warm-up. You want your partner and your partner wants you, as evidenced by your collective, animal-like panting. Your tongue is already in his mouth before you realize that you're kissing. But now what? Slowly -- and I mean slowly -- roll your tongue in circles around your partner's. Thrust shallow, thrust deep. Then circle again. Tilt your head to the other side, and repeat. Playfully bite his lower lip, then lick his lips. Try different variations of the above. The combinations are endless.

Exhibit B (The Coy French Kiss)
This kiss needs coaxing, as evident by your partner's mellow breathing. Start with his lips. With the tip of your tongue lick his top lip, then kiss him softly, no tongue. Next, taste his lower lip, then brush both your lips back and forth, and up and down his. Gaze seductively into your partner's eyes -- eye contact usually helps rev up the respiratory system. Next, add a little panting and moaning to your efforts. Finally, ease your tongue between his lips, slipping in and out. Continue in this coy manner until you reach the point where the lusty French kiss takes over (see above). Then alternate between the coy and lusty kisses. You see, variety and surprise are what ultimately make a French kiss more than just a kiss.

Ang Lihim ni Antonio (Filipino Gay Movie)

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SYNOPSIS. Antonio (Kenji Garcia) is a curious fifteen-year-old boy who is beginning to come to terms with his own sexuality. Although his straight best friend, Mike (Jiro Manio), has been supportive of his coming out, his first sexual conquest has led to the destruction of his friendship with his other best buddy, Nathan.


Antonio's exploration of his identity unfolds as his family begins to break up. His altruistic mother Tere (Shamaine Buencamino) is in complete denial that his father has already abandoned them.


A shocking tragedy begins to spiral up as Antonio meets his hedonistic uncle Jonbert (Josh Ivan Morales), who becomes the boy's sexual obsession.

Lihim is a film about a young boy who grows up without his father. It narrates how he and his mother are forced to get by and the bond they share through the years of nurturing and companionship. But most of all, it is about how a boy grows up knowing he is different, how he ponders on the meaning of his desires, how he represses them and how he yearns to tell someone but fears the consequences of rejection.

Newcomer Kenji Garcia gives a very real and believable portrayal of the confused young man named Antonio. We are shown Antonio's dilemma as he grows up in a world where there are no role models to emulate. He is left to discover it on his own—with uncertainty and fear plaguing him all the way. This is clearly seen in one of the scenes in the movie where he watches his childhood friend sleep. It is in a scene like this that Ang Lihim ni Antonio shows the anatomy of longing. Kenji successfully shows how a boy's desire to express his sexuality leads him to appreciate his friends' body from afar before he is spurred to come closer and caress his friend. Viewers are held on the edge of their seats in tension and fear for Antonio and what he is about to discover. The result is a childhood experiment that forever changes the relationship between two friends.

Things take a more climactic turn with the arrival of Antonio's uncle, Jonbert (played by Josh Ivan Morales). It can be said that no better choice can be made for this role than Josh Ivan. His sexuality is powerful and bleeds from the screen to the audience. Viewers easily feel the powerful attraction of the boyish Antonio for his uncle. His sideway glances; for example, at a dinner table had no dialogue but carried a depth of desire. Both Kenji and Josh Ivan's execution of their roles complement each other to form an innocent but obsessive and highly charged relationship. Jonbert's encounters with Antonio in the course of the film may border on the unbelievable to some, but Josh Ivan's performance as the hedonistic uncle justifie

s the doubts in the audience's mind and may even fulfill some fantasies as well.

Also in the movie is Jiro Manio who plays Mike, Antonio's curious best friend. Jiro offers a comedic side to this otherwise serious film. His lines such as "Paglaki mo ba magbubukas ka din ng parlor?" were punchy and funny—a welcome break from the intense soliloquies of Antonio or the harsh realities of a mother raising her kid alone. Jiro successfully depicts the innocence of his age faced with gender stereotypes and social realities.

But the true scene-stealer of the movie is Shamaine Buencamino who plays Antonio's mother. Her acting, most particularly in the last part of the movie, was brilliant. There was none of the over-the-top shouting and crazed gestures our Filipino movies are known for. Instead, Sharmaine's acting was restrained—requiring no words but only her facial expression and stance to relay her emotions. Her scene in front of a mirror peeling away the wrapped towel around her body evokes of lost years and a need to be touched while the traumatic and scarring events in the movie's tragic ending show a woman with all sanity lost, showered only by a son's love. It is truly a performance that brings to mind Hollywood actress Meryl Streep in the movie The Bridges of Madison County.

For all the good points of the film, there are also some areas that need improvement. The film starts slow with some unnecessary scenes but the pace picks up as the movie progresses. Camera handling could be improved because many parts of the movie featured wobbly shots. It is also natural for people to compare Lihim with Parola, its successful predecessor. These two films were written and directed by the gifted tandem of Lex Bonife and Jay Altarejos. The two films have their respective strengths and weaknesses. Parola, without question, wins in the cinematography and lighting department. Its melancholy landscape of beaches and rural life successfully imparts an infectious mood that transports the viewer into its world. The seemingly less panoramic setting of Lihim is compensated with a more complex story featuring riveting performances from its actors. If Parola imparts a scenic mood, Lihim gifts viewers with emotions—both lighthearted moments and heavy dramatic scenes, which are felt throughout the film.

All in all, Ang Lihim ni Antonio deserves your time and money. To say that it is the "boldest gay film" may be an overstatement. This is because it did not really show anything really explicit and new given the many other indie films coming out today. But one thing is for sure; it is a film you would want to watch because of its poignant story and impressive show from its actors.

Having safe gay sex!

There's no doubt that anal sex is riskier than any other kind of sex for passing on sexually transmitted infections, for the lining of the rectum is thinner and more permeable. This is why some care is necessary to protect yourself from hepatitis, HIV, and other sexual problems.

Bareback or Unprotected Anal Sex

Barebacking is the name given to anal sex without a condom. It is becoming increasingly popular because of a perception that AIDS has been beaten and is now a disease you can live with comfortably. It's true that life expectancy has increased, but unfortunately the treatments are not always effective, and there are some unpleasant side effects. (HIV is the virus that eventually causes AIDS, a disease where the immune system collapses.)

References on: HIV medications, HIV, AIDS

Why do gay men bareback?

There are lots of reasons why men bareback, but in the end they all come down to the same thing - an unwillingness to protect oneself from disease.

Some men think HIV is not a threat. It is. And because of this apathy it is now spreading faster than it has in recent years. And medication does not cure you; once you are infected, you have the virus for ever.

Some men, though it may seem incredible, go out and deliberately try to spread HIV infection. One assumes this is an angry, rageful act. Others deliberately try to catch it. In this case, a man's fear of being infected inevitably is such that he pre-empts what he sees as inevitable by getting infected deliberately.

Men who are already infected may see protection as pointless. But reinfecting oneself and other men with HIV can create new strains of the virus, which are then immune to the drugs available.

Some gay men have spontaneous unprotected sex on the spur of the moment, thinking they will get away with it, and perhaps even getting a thrill from the risk. A lifetime of ill health is a price to pay for a moment of spontaneity.

Some gay men are not confident enough to go against the wishes of a more assertive sexual partner. Lines like: "I can't get erect with a condom" or "Just to start with" are about his pleasure and selfishness, not your well-being.

Some men bareback because it feel better. They say that condoms can reduce sensation, and make you feel less connected to your partner. And it's true all men, gay or not, have a strong urge to ejaculate as deeply and powerfully into their partner as possible, which in most cases means without a condom.

The possible outcomes to barebacking

You get an infection like syphilis, Hepatitis, or HIV. You then infect your partner. You suffer and you die sooner than you otherwise would.

And if you do this consciously, you choose to put your life in the hands of another man. Why would you do that? Especially if you don't know him well?

How to enjoy anal penetration

The most obvious possible problem with anal intercourse is that the man who's receiving isn't able to relax enough to take his partner's penis. It's true that he needs to be relaxed in both mind and body to make it easy for his partner to enter him - the muscle ring around his anus will contract shut if he's frightened of being hurt, or he fears being penetrated. And for good thrusting which is enjoyable to both partners, he'll need to be able to keep it relaxed - which is something that's learned over time.

Not all gay men enjoy anal sex, and it's fine if you don't want to do it. But if you think you're missing out on this source of pleasure solely because of feelings you have about your anus being dirty, then you might like to explore why you feel that way.

A lot of us have issues of shame around our anus - left over from all that repressive toilet training we received in infancy! Despite this childhood inculcation with ideas of dirt or shame or whatever, we can recover control over the muscles and learn to relax them at will. So you might like to consider how you feel about your anus and rectum. If you think you feel bad about them, then you can begin a gentle exploration, perhaps when you're in the bath or shower. You can either do this on your own or with a friend (which may be much more fun, unless you need to get through some hang-ups first). If you want to avoid any trace of shit, just douche with a small douche bag before you try your exploration.

You're in control, of course, if you do this to yourself, which can make this a safe way to find out what you like and don't like. Try touching your anus while you're in the bath or shower, or perhaps when you're masturbating - if it feels good, try a little massage of your anus with a fingertip, or shift into a position where you can enjoy a little deeper penetration. The objective is to monitor what you're feeling, and how tight your rear end is when you try different things, like penetrating with a finger. You'll have prepared for this moment by buying some lube or oil which will make penetration much easier; don't use soap, shampoo or suchlike, it's not good for the rectum. Be careful, though, and don't penetrate your anus with any sharp or potentially damaging objects, and use plenty of lube.

Once you have a finger or two (with well-trimmed nails) inside your anus, you can explore how it feels. Or you may want to masturbate with a finger deeper inside your rectum, and discover how that feels. If you feel around inside your insides, gently, you'll find a walnut-sized lump behind your testicles, which is your prostate gland. Pressure on this can feel very good, so if you're masturbating, try a variety of movements with your finger and see what's most enjoyable.

If you get onto familiar terms with your anus, it will soon learn to co-operate in admitting larger objects like a penis. Practice tensing and relaxing your anus around your finger. The nest step is to try a dildo; a small one to start with, obviously; you can go onto larger objects later.

If you're playing with a friend, he can tongue or finger your anus, after washing it well, or he can masturbate you as he penetrates you with a finger. It's not hard to get to a level of intimacy where you can do this - just say something like: "I'd like to try anal play, but I don't know how. Can we try it together?" And it always helps to decide what you want to do before you start....

What if you can't relax?

This means that you're still quiet anxious about being penetrated. Relaxation is the best way to deal with this; gentle sex play with a trusted friend helps as well, so that you work your way up to full penetration gradually. If it proves absolutely impossible, then either this isn't the form of sex for you, or you may need to see a gay counsellor or sex therapist to shed a few of your inhibitions.

And if you can relax?

When it comes to the time to try full-blown anal sex - that is to say, to have your partner put his penis inside you - you may find that you have to cover some of the practice ground described above again; after all, a penis is much larger than a finger! If you feel pain as he penetrates, take it very slowly. He can enter you a little bit at a time so that you get used to the feeling of penetration and so that you can relax as he makes forward pressure against your anus. He needs to back off every so often so you can relax; little forward pushes followed by relaxation are the best way to get in for the first time. A lot of lube will make this much easier.

If you really want to be in control, squat over him and lower yourself onto his erect penis, holding it with one hand so it's at the correct angle to go in. Or you can wrap your hand around his shaft so that he cannot force more of his shaft into you than you want to take at any time.

After he has his penis in you, it's about relaxing and letting go, about enjoying the feelings that come as he thrusts or moves in and out of you. If you masturbate as he thrusts, you may find that the experience is very intense. Any slight pain or discomfort you feel will soon give way to pleasure - if it doesn't, you may want to stop and shift position, or try again later when you're feeling more relaxed. Remember that you don't have to be passive - indeed, the penetrator may even remain still while the penetrated man makes all the movements. "Passive" and "active" are the wrong connotations: it's more about receiving and giving, meeting in a sexual union which gives both of you pleasure and opens you to human contact - or, at least, a very powerful sexual experience!

Finally, as for the movements of sex, let them come gradually. Just do what comes naturally, and learn through experience.

Other problems with anal sex

There's a saying that "the penis never lies." What this means is that if you're penetrating for the first time, you're likely to have an attack of nerves which results in you coming too soon - or, worse, your penis wilting, and your erection disappearing! Talking about this with your partner is essential, because explaining how you feel and what you're experiencing will take away a lot of the pressure.

What makes this worse is when you worry that it might happen again next time, because you've established the association of sex and erection failure. Just laugh about it if you can; it happens to everyone (fact!). Losing your erection isn't a failure, you're not a failure, and the problem will go away as your confidence grows. Being relaxed and intimate with your partner is often all you need to get over erectile difficulties: although men are often supposed to be rampant sex machines, ready and erect to go at a moment's notice, this is in fact rarely the case, and some men just can't get it up for a casual encounter with someone they are unlikely ever to see again.

Instead, find a friend you trust, who'll help you. Go back to anal play with a finger, and when you're comfortable with this, try lying on your back, and inserting your penis into your partner as he lowers himself onto you. You don't have to move at all; just relax and enjoy the way it feels. And then don't worry about what you do after penetration! Instead, let your partner move as he wishes while you just enjoy the feelings you get from it. When you're comfortable with the sex so far, try a different position: side by side, either facing each other or facing away from each other, is good, because it's less demanding, and you can relax or thrust without much danger of losing your erection.

What you'll find is that the way you move will probably have a lot to do with your emotions. You might thrust your hips slowly, fast, hard, softly, simply, in complex movements - whatever feels good. And moving in synch with your partner is something you'll gradually learn how to do as well. For example, you could thrust while he moves his pelvis in a circular way. And if you're trying positions like rear entry or missionary, you can either thrust in opposition to him, so that your bodies come harder together, or you can thrust in synch and time with his rhythm, so that you move in the same direction at the same time: the first method holds much more energy between you, and can be good for two men who want to express their masculine energy during sex at the same time.

The question of force sometimes arises in gay sex. The answer is very simple - unless you're into some of the darker sides of sex, anal sex should always feel good; it should not hurt (beyond maybe a little at first). If your partner is trying to force his way into your anus, and it feels bad, stop the sex. He's not considering your feelings, nor your body, and you need to ask if this is the kind of sex you want from anyone.

And since an anus is only as loose and open as its owner, if you're the person entering it, always be considerate and kind. You should use gentle pressure to start with: if there's any pain beyond a little at first, it's a bad sign, for the receiver is not ready to have sex, to be penetrated, and you need to stop and work towards it more gradually. Deep thrusts and strokes can be good for both partners once the bottom is opened up and loose; at first, shallow strokes and gentle pressure are more appropriate. When things loosen up and get going, and both partners become more aroused, you can increase the the speed and depth of your thrusting.

Finger play with your partner's anus

As you press in (with plenty of lube), you'll feel your finger pass the muscular rings of the outer and inner anal sphincters. The inner wall of the rectum feels ridged, soft, muscular and warm. Once your finger is inside, move it around, curling it around the inner edge of his anus and feeling his prostate. Stroking or massaging his prostate as you masturbate or fellate him will increase the strength of his ejaculation many times (if it hurts, it's probably infected; if he doesn't feel much, he's probably nervous). Putting two fingers up him will increase his sensations, and you can move them around independently to add to his pleasure. Just having your finger(s) positioned inside him while sucking or jacking him off will feel good for him, and if you massage his prostate gently by sliding your fingers up and down at ejaculation, you can double or quadruple the intensity of his orgasm. When he's ejaculated, you can simply pull your fingers out gradually.

Rimming

Rimming - (also called "analingus") is licking and tonguing your partner's anus. To make this a pleasant experience, good hygiene is essential, so cleaning up beforehand in the shower or bath is a good idea - just run your finger inside the anal canal to make sure it's clean. An enema or douche can also be reassuring.

The reason this can feel good is that the anus is well-supplied with hundreds of erotically sensitive nerves, all of which will register the pleasurable sensations associated with a tongue licking or caressing the anal area. It might not be to everyone's taste, but it can be fun to try it.

Another way to enhance a man's enjoyment of analingus is to lick and nibble at his balls and cock at the same time.

A Dangerous Closet

By MARY GAIL FRAWLEY-O'DEA |

The Catholic Church’s position on homosexuality eventually might take its place among the other aspects of Catholic sexual theology generally discounted by the laity and many priests. Nonetheless, the hypocrisy of a church condemning homosexuality while depending on a significantly gay priesthood to run it and to administer its sacraments is, among several other factors, directly implicated in the sexual abuse scandal. The unspoken known that the priesthood is more homosexual than the wider culture is countered by an edict to priests not to speak openly about their sexual orientation but rather to preach about the evil of enacted homosexuality. Mixed messages, sexual secrets, and denied realities abound in a clerical Wonderland in which the institutional church appears to play the Queen of Hearts. Secrecy about and coverup of the sexual abuse of minors becomes an almost inevitable component of such a crazy and crazy-making realm.

Contemporary researchers suggest that between 28 percent and 56 percent of the American priesthood is homosexual. Most psychologically healthy gay men are attracted to the priesthood for the same reasons that it attracts mature heterosexual men. They love God, desire to pursue a life of deepened spirituality, and are committed to living out gospel values within a community of faith. It is probable that gay men always have been attracted to the priesthood in numbers disproportionate to their presence in the wider society. Until very recently, and in some cases still, Catholic boys who recognized their homosexuality faced the scorn of family, friends, and church. Taught that acting on his sexual love and strivings is intrinsically evil and mortally sinful, the Catholic gay man faces painful conflicts between his identity and his attachment relationships. Entering the priesthood was a move that, until quite recently, evoked family pride, with the seminarian or priest being held in great esteem by his community.

It is also logical to hypothesize that homosexual men would be attracted to the all-male environment of the priesthood. Further, when boys entered the seminary as young teens, the explosion of pubescent sexual strivings had only one direction in which to travel. Surrounded by men and boys in an environment that rendered women dangerous, except for idealized mothers and the Virgin Mary, an adolescent seminarian was left with few choices. He pretty much could lust after his mother or he could lust after those around him, many of them gay men. And so we encounter the paradox of an organization teaching that homosexuality is disordered and then constructing an environment that maximally elicits homosexual yearnings.
Many gay men growing up in what has been until recently a pervasively homophobic society have lived in closets in which they sometimes deny who they are even to themselves. The antihomosexual theology of the Catholic Church, conveyed in homosocial seminary environments likely to stimulate forbidden and derided sexual desires, often constructed for the young gay priest a particularly suffocating closet. Here, the self-hatred plaguing many gay men could be magnified for gay priests, some of whom tried to cope by strenuously denying their sexual orientation, even turning hatred outward toward other gay men. Denial and dissociation on this scale encourages the denial of other sexual secrets like the sexual abuse of children.
Nothing psychologically sound or, I suspect, spiritually enriching can emanate from such hypocrisy. Surely, the pope, cardinal, bishop, or priest who cannot look in the mirror and acknowledge his reflection as a homosexual man will have difficulty looking into the face of a sexually abusive brother and naming what he sees. Rather, he is likely to close his eyes to true evil, because his own humanity has been mislabeled as inclining toward evil. He may also blame or ignore the victims of sex abuse, unconsciously turning away from his own victimization by his Church and the wider society. Closets, then, are built within closets and lies pile up until it is hard to find the truth, much less speak the truth.

Closed or Open Gay/ Lesbian in Korea

A gay Korean man living in the USA has testified to the existence of a gay community in Seoul during the 1970's. Lesbians and gay men got together to meet each month at a specific Chinese restaurant. Although there were over a hundred people considered to belong to this community, their organization remained informal, casual, and as invisible as possible.

In the early 1990's, an American lesbian who had moved to Korea for a few years for business purposes tried to find a lesbian bar in the country, but failed because no such place existed at that time. Aware of the lack of public spaces and organizations for lesbians in Korea, she placed ads in English-language Korean Newspapers such as the Korea Times and the Korea Herald. Eight foreign women living in Korea answered her ads, forming a lesbian group called Sappho in November 1991. The membership of Sappho changed often because most of its members returned to home countries (e.g.., the USA, Canada, Belgium, Sweden, Australia, etc.) after 2 or 3 years of working in Korea. Sappho was comprised of 20 members as of the spring of this year.
Over in the USA, groups for lesbian and gay Korean-Americans were founded in New York (December 1990), and in Los Angeles (August 1993). Several members from these American groups have been in contact with Sappho, and have discussed forming Korean gay/lesbian rights groups and providing outreach and support to their various friends. One Korean-American involved in this effort together with 3 Korean lesbians and 2 gay Korean men living in Korea decided to form the first formal Korean gay rights organization, named the Cho-Dong Society (meaning: "Cho-lock" green, the color of peace, is "Dong-saek" the same, for everybody) on January 7, 1994. By that time, the group consisted of 3 lesbians and 4 gay men.

However, the Cho-Dung society broke up only one month later due to serious infighting between the lesbians and the gay men. In the wake of the break-up, 7 gay men reorganized the group as a gay-male-specific organization called Chin-gu-sa-i (meaning "Between Friends") on February 7, 1994. The membership of "Between Friends" rose only to 15 members in the first month, but jumped to almost 120 members by the second month, June 1996. The lesbians made no public moves for 9 months following the dissolution of the Cho-Dong Society, whereupon they formed a new group called Ki-ri-ki-ri (meaning "Togetherness") on November 27, 1994. The group was founded by only 7 members, but the numbers quickly swelled to 80 members by December 1995. They could claim around 100 members as of this June, 1996.

The first gay campus organization emerged at Yonsei University on April 1, 1995. A graduate student in sociology came out publicly as gay student, and placed an ad for forming a gay students association in the campus newspaper in March 1995. Seven student joined to form "Come Together" the first Korean campus association for gay college students. Following their successful start, an bisexual student at Seoul National University tried to publish a similar ad in his own campus newspaper, but the ad was refused. So he postered the campus with flyers instead, founding Ma-Um 001 (meaning "Heart 001"), a group committed to the rights of oppressed sexual minorities.

Enormous controversy surrounded the founding of both of these campus groups, but when a third campus group "People with People" was established at the University of Korea in September 1995, there was comparatively little uproar. As of July 1996, there are at least 5 gay student organizations at Korean universities.

On November 1, 2001, the Ministry of Information and Communications formally enacted an internet content rating system classifying gay and lesbian websites as "harmful media" and mandating their blockage--all under the guise of protecting youth. The Ministry acted after an April 2001 decision by the Korean Information and Communications Ethics Committee (ICEC)--an officially independent body with wide censorship powers--which classified homosexuality under the category of "obscenity and perversion" in its "Criteria for Indecent Internet Sites." Activists in Korea trace the roots of this definition to a 1997 law that classifies descriptions of "homosexual love" as "harmful to youth." The MIC accepted this classification in July. Enforcement of these measures was swift. The owner of Exzone.com, the first and largest gay website in Korea, received a notice stating that if it did not immediately mark itself as a 'harmful site' and install filtering software to prevent youth access, he would be penalized with a fine of approximately US$10,000 or two years imprisonment.

The Korean LGBT community fought against the anti-gay law for the two years. On January 10, 2002, Exzone.com in affiliation with Lesbian and Gay Alliance Against Discrimination (LGAAD) and the Lawyers for a Democratic Society filed the first lawsuit against Korean government for blocking access unconstitutional. A court decision was made on August 14, 2002 that freedom of speech and expression were not applicable regarding homosexuality, and allowed for outrageous penalties, including two year imprisoment, to be enforced. This decision envigorated local and international human rights efforts to have the law changed.

On April 2, 2003 the Korean National Human Rights Protection Committee officially advised Korea's Youth Protection Committee to remove anti-gay language from the 1997 Youth Protection Act that that underpinned the 2001 Ministry of Information and Communications decision. Korean queer activist, Husa Yi, calls the reversal of the Youth Protection Act wording "one of the most important turning points in the Korean LGBTQ rights movement".

Japan's Gay History

The birth of the gay community
The Tokyo Lesbian and Gay Parade 2000 was held on 27 August 2000. Having been revived after a four-year break, this was the largest parade so far to be held in Tokyo with over two thousand people participating. In conjunction with the year 2000 parade the Tokyo Rainbow Festival was later held in Tokyo's Shinjuku Ni-chōme district.[1] The festival was organized by a group of gay bar owners and attracted such a large number of participants that it was impossible to move in the streets. Watching the fireworks released at the end of the festival brought tears to the eyes of many gay men present, gathered as they were in Ni-chōme, the site of so many gay bars and full of so many memories.
Fushimi Noriaki, a gay critic who has been positively engaged with the mainstream media from the beginning of the 1990s, summed up the events of that day in the gay magazine Badi with the daunting phrase, 'the birth of the gay community.' In recent years, despite the difficulties of defining exactly what 'community' might mean, the use of the phrase 'gay community' has become much more frequent among gay men. While the phrase is sometimes used to refer to Shinjuku Ni-chōme, an area housing over two hundred gay bars, it is also used to refer to the various volunteer networks that gay men participate in and can also be used to refer to various circles of gay friends. The term is also sometimes used to describe the regular crowd at each individual gay bar. Therefore there is probably not much point in arguing over what should or shouldn't really be included in the term 'gay community.' What is important to consider is that the term gay community should be used to refer to gay groups in which some sense of fellowship is apparent or is being created or in which there is a sense that a community consciousness is developing. Without a doubt the emergence of the term gay community has come about due to a change in consciousness among gay men in Japan.[2]
Although this essay has been given the title 'Japan's gay history,' I'd like to follow just one line through this broad topic and provide an outline of the development of a community consciousness. However, even with this limitation it is still extremely difficult to write a history of Japanese gay men (not to mention that of same-sex desiring men in the period before the label 'gay'). One reason is due to the fact that there is no long-term record of gay voices. However, one thing is certain and that is the shift from a time when there were no gay people speaking for themselves, to a situation in which gay voices can speak freely, is directly related to the formation of a strong sense of gay community consciousness. A history of silence
Like many individuals who are oppressed and discriminated against, for a long time gay people were unable to write in their own words about their experience and could not create their own history. Although there are many literary and artistic representations dating from the Edo period (1603-1857) which describe sexual acts which took place between men using terms such as danshoku[3] and wakashu,[4] at that time participating in such acts did not designate a specific type of person and so these records cannot be read as part of the history of 'gay' or 'homosexual' men. The so-called 'birth' of the homosexual took place in Japan in the Meiji (1858-1912) and Taisho (1912-25) periods when participating in same-sex sexual acts came to be understood as the result of a personal disposition, but almost no first-person narratives survive from this time.
The only records which remain from this period are case studies and analyses from a genre of sexology publications dating from 1900 which treated 'homosexuality' as one example of 'perverse sexuality.' There are also some articles and reports about cross-dressing male prostitutes who existed before and after World War II, but these reports, are also 'about' homosexuals and do not represent their own voices. However, this period of silence in which there were no records created by homosexuals themselves began to change in 1950 with the appearance of magazines such as Amatoria which took sex as their theme. On the one hand, while Amatoria continued the tradition of treating homosexuality as a kind of deviance or perversion, it did also publish letters from homosexuals who were seeking advice as well as stage roundtable events featuring homosexuals as discussants. Two years after the first appearance of Amatoria, the first privately circulated magazine for homosexual men, entitled Adonis,[5] appeared and it is probably correct to assume that this represents the first time that the voices of actual homosexual men themselves came into circulation. This situation did not change dramatically until 1971 when Barazoku,[6] the first commercial magazine aimed at gay men, was launched. This has been followed by an uninterrupted flow of other commercial magazines aimed at gay men. Toward a common experience
The availability of gay publications in regular bookshops brought about a sudden expansion in gay networking and also the fact that gay men could now write about their lives in the pages of these magazines helped them to develop a broader sense of shared experience. Another result was that gay bars, which had previously been advertised mainly by word of mouth, were able to be advertised in these magazines and thus the existence of these establishments became more widely known. Thus, it would not be a mistake to say that these publications, through advertising gay bars and printing letters in their personals columns, contributed to an increase in opportunities for gay men to get together and so further strengthened the sense of a commonality of experience. As a direct result, in the latter half of the 1970s numerous small gay liberation groups were founded and began to issue newsletters. A further epoch-making event took place in 1978 when one of the first spokesmen for gay lib, Ōtsuka Takashi, became a popular radio personality which meant that his gay voice was able to reach a wider audience.[7]
However, these developments were based on largely personal acts of liberation by a few pioneering activists and were not deeply rooted in the culture of Japan's gay scene. Even more than today, at that time gay bars were seen as venues for searching out sexual partners and there was slim chance of developing what we now think of as a community feeling. As a result those groups and newsletters that developed during this period were not able to continue for very long. Voices speak out
In the 1980s a major event occurred which was to have a major impact on gay people (as well as many others throughout the world)—the arrival of AIDS. One unforeseen outcome of the advent of this disease was that mainstream news media which had previously ignored homosexual issues began to report on the social situation and lifestyles of gays in the United States. Then, somewhat later, after the spread of HIV infection to Japan, the media's gaze turned on gay people living in Japan.
At just that moment, several Japanese gay liberation groups were emerging, including ILGA (International Lesbian and Gay Association) Japan, founded in 1984, and the Association for Moving Lesbians and Gays (also known as OCCUR), founded in 1986. These organizations immediately began working on issues related to gay men and AIDS and their campaign against the AIDS Prevention Law[8] and other activities were widely reported in the general media. This was the beginning of a new period in which the voices of gay men themselves began to be reported outside gay circles.
However, it was at the beginning of the 1990s that the existence of gay people really began to be brought to the attention of the outside world. In 1991, OCCUR launched a court case which became known as the Fuchu Hostel Incident. While holding a meeting at the hostel, OCCUR's members had been badly treated by other groups using the facilities and as a result OCCUR were refused future use of the hostel by the management, resulting in OCCUR launching a discrimination case against the facility's owners, the Tokyo Metropolitan Government. (In 1997 the judgment came down on the side of OCCUR.)
In the same year, Fushimi Noriaki released his pioneering gay studies book Private Gay Life. In that book was included a photograph of the author, a highly significant step at a time when having a picture of one's face released in the general media took a lot of bravery. Then, in 1992, Ōtsuka Takashi and others edited the 'Gay Present' edition of popular magazine Bessatsu Takarajima. As a result, interest in gay topics gradually picked up pace in the general media resulting in what became known as the 'gay boom' in which experiences and accounts from actual gay men were widely reported. Not simply voices but faces
One symbol of this increased visibility was the parade. Organised by Minami Teishirō (of ILGA Japan), Japan's first Lesbian and Gay Parade was held in Tokyo in 1994. This was followed in 1996 by the establishment of another parade in Sapporo (the capital of Japan's northernmost island, Hokkaido). Despite the fact that after the third Tokyo parade disputes about the parade's organization meant that the event was not resumed again until 2000, the commencement of such events meant that for the first time it was not just gay people's voices that were reaching out to a wider public but gay people themselves were becoming more visible.
Also in 1994, the release of the gay magazine Badi, which showed for the first time the faces of 'ordinary' gay people, continued this trend toward 'not simply voices but faces' in the media. Gay magazines such as Badi and, later, G-Men, pioneered a new approach which had not been seen before in gay magazines—offering a more positive impression of gay life and printing news and information about 'ordinary' gay people. These magazines continued the trend toward a broadening of gay community consciousness.
In this manner, gay people's voices are being recorded, gay people's mutual experience is being brought together, and the fact that gay 'fellowship' is becoming more visible means that we can now think in terms of a gay community. Undoubtedly this community consciousness will continue to expand and it will be possible to write a new kind of gay history. The writing of a full-blown history of gay Japan is something that can now be undertaken.

Gay Brazil

Brazil is becoming ever tolerant of homosexuality and flourishing gay scenes exists in most of the main cities. In 2005 Sao Paulo hosted the Wolds biggest gay pride event with an estimated 2 million marchers! The gay scene is centred in Rio and Sao Paulo where you will find many western style bars, clubs and saunas. Theres a great gay section on Ipanema beach in Rio. Even smaller cities like Salvador have lots going on. There is also a strong culture of transvestism which is an accepted part of Brazilian life. Each year during the Rio Carnival there is the Scala Gay Ball which is a national televised event. We discovered that the Ball was actually a transvestite Ball with not many gays in evidence. All in all we think Brazil is a fabulous destination for gay tourists to be strongly recommended. The only down side is the crime in big cities so be careful!

Homosexual behaviour between consenting adults is not a criminal offence, except with regard to the Armed Forces. Brazil decriminalised most homosexual acts in 1823. Although homosexuality is not illegal, the police use the pretext of "safeguarding morality and public decency" and "preventing outrageous behaviour" to stop, arrest, and bring gays to trial. Anti-discrimination measures have improved hugely in recent years with over 70 Brazilian cities and towns, three states and the federal capital district [Brasilia] now protecting gays and lesbians from discrimination. Among them are the cities of Sao Paulo and Rio de Janeiro and the states of Bahia, Sergipe and Matto Grosso. Partnership rights only exist inthe Southern state of Rio Grande do Sul though there has been strong lobbying for this to be extended throughout the counntry.

Brazil is a huge country and has a tropical and subtropical climate characterized by high temperatures and moderate to heavy rainfall. When to visit will be determined by where you go. The south will be best November to March whereas you can go to Rio any time of the year with February being the hotest month.The geography of the country divides it into four climatic regions. The Amazon basin which has no dry season and is typically tropical. Secondly, the Brazilian Plateau which has a more distinct wet and dry season, and is susceptible to prolonged drought. Then there is the coastal belt which has a hot tropical climate and finally the south which has a seasonal temperate climate. Rainfall is evenly distributed throughout the year and the nationwide average annual precipitation varies between 1,010 mm and 2,030 mm. Average temperature ranges in Rio de Janeiro are from 17c to 24c in July to 23c to 29c in February

How to Date a Gay Stripper

1. Find a strip-club where you feel comfortable. Usually the type of club you go will determine the type of men that work there. Clubs that are 18+ and don't have bars usually have very young inexperienced boys or jaded veterans, gold diggers or both. It is true that these boys are usually attracted by the gangster type male who can give them some sense of protection and follow their party life rhythm. You might get lucky with them but they are not good dating material. Go for the gentlemen club type places or topless bars where you can usually find more educated dancers, sometimes college students or even college graduates. These boys are usually far more interesting and open to socialize within the confines of their workplace.




2. Dancers work at different clubs for two main reasons: Either they want to be a big fish in a little pond or a little fish in a big pond. The over 21, more upscale classes are the latter while the under 21 are the former. You will find college students, the inexperienced, and all else at both types of clubs)




3. Become a familiar face at the club by befriending first the bartenders, manager, security... This may provide good deals in the future.




4. Befriend the dancers first. Most dancers dislike the managers and have their favorites among the bouncers. If you befriend the dancers first, you don't have to worry about being one those "creepy" pals of the manager.)




5. Show up early. Go to the club right after they open, usually in the first hour or hour and a half after they open, the place is dead and the strippers are just chilling, hanging around, practicing pole-tricks and talking to each other. This is the best moment to try to approach them without feeling under pressure because they are still not in their crazy money-making mode.

Tips:

• Never judge them or their profession. Don't look down on them for what they do and don't assume that because they are strippers they must be promiscuous and easy.




• The best chance of dating a stripper is when you meet them outside the club--at the gym, a concert, the store, etc. As has been said, some strippers won't date any customers; some strippers will 'hook up' but not date a very attractive customer, and some strippers will occasionally date a customer they find attractive. If you are specifically looking to date a stripper, you most likely will fail.




• Don't think you're unique in wanting to date a stripper, and don't think you have a greater chance to do so than any other regulars. Strippers earn their incomes with the illusion of attainability. Most customers want to date the personas that the strippers put on at the club--the same way people want to hook up with and date musicians. Your chances are improved if you are considered physically good looking, carry yourself well and have a substantial income.




• Don't go into a relationship with a stripper thinking you can 'change' his or expect her to get another job. Either accept that he strips or find someone who doesn't.




• Don't be drunk at the club where he dances. Dress nicely and make sure you smell good.




• Don't pay for a dance from the one that you are interested in! He'll see you as just another sleaze ball. Be the friend that he goes and talks to off and on during the night when things are slow.




• Don't buy dances at all. You have to be different from the regular customer.




• Don't under-tip. Don't over-tip. Both will land you in hot water. You don't want to appear cheap, nor an easy mark. She is there to make money not find dates. In general strippers never date customers. You can't be her customer and you can't be anyone else customer either. You have to be just "a guy". Customers aren't the kind of guys a dancer would date, they are targets. They can't afford to think of a customer as a person. The guy who fixes the juke box has a better shot than a customer. He has a legitimate (non-sleazy, non-patsey) reason to be in the club. One stripper friend of mine told me in 15 years of dancing I was the only friend she made at work. He met dozens of guys every night... I'm not bragging, just asking you to do the math.




• And always remember, no matter what he says or what story has uses to justify what he's doing, there is nothing kind or compassionate about turning someone on you'd never have sex with in a million years. When it's all said and done, she is performing a biological con job or men who (for better or worse) are just responding naturally to what they see. He may never want to talk about it in these terms, but it's important for you to always remember that she's the shark and you're the tuna. If she isn't filled with resentments he should feel some degree of guilt about the con. Not the nudity or the sex, but the con. Once you've hammered that into your head, then you have to ignore it and never bring it up to him or feel any resentment toward her for it. As he does. Ironic, eh?




• Strippers generally don't like guys who want to date strippers. They meet them all night long so they're a dime a dozen. They would be embarrassed for their co-workers to see then dating an ordinary run-of-the-mill customer.




• The worst place to meet a stripper is in a strip club. He will judge you harsher for being there than you'd judge her.




• If he isn't willing to meet you outside the club to hang out, he isn't your friend. He's playing you.




• If you are having a relationship with a stripper, stay out of the club he's in. Jealousy tends to rear it's head, even though the stripper is on the job and needs to do the 'hustle' in order to get an income. He may also feel jealous if you flirt or purchase dances from other strippers. The last thing a stripper needs is relationship issues coming into his workplace.

Aviso/Warning:

• Be prepared to be supportive, or don't get involved.




• Drug and alcohol addiction are a occupational hazard.




• Although they *can* make good money, if she is still in debt, RUN away. Many can spend their money, and yours, faster than you can make it. Another addiction.




• Even if a stripper asks for your phone number or business card, don't assume she's truly interested in dating you. He may be interested in cultivating you as a regular customer or keeping you indexed in case she needs your business services in the future (if you're a lawyer, photographer, etc.).




• Some strippers also try to find a 'oldy daddy' or a 'sugar mommy' someone who will pay for living expenses, provide gifts and travel, in exchange for sexual favors, arm candy or mere companionship. Some strippers may string along one or more 'sugar daddies' if they can get away with it.




• Strippers get lots of attention, in the club and oftentimes out of it. If you can't handle your partner receiving plenty of admiration, dating a stripper is probably not for you.

Is Beheading Really the Punishment for Homosexuality in Saudi Arabia?

By Mubarak Dahir, syndicated column

A few weeks before taking a trip to Saudi Arabia in October, I sent out a notice to my friends in America and the Arab World, letting them know that I wanted to interview gay men while I was there and asking for their help in making contacts.

In response to my request, I got a flood of frantic e-mails.

Even gay Arab friends, long accustomed to the harsh treatment their own governments give homosexual citizens, sent me urgent and alarmed notes pleading with me to be careful. Saudi Arabia, the e-mails warned me, was exponentially more repressive than any other place I’d visited in the Arab World, and was therefore that much more dangerous.

I knew what was on everyone’s minds: Isn’t beheading the punishment for being gay in Saudi Arabia?

As an openly gay reporter digging around for interviews in a kingdom infamous for its public decapitation rituals, the question was foremost in my mind as well.

But when I got to Saudi Arabia, I found that the answer to this question is not as simple as we in the West often portray it. As far as I could make out, the answer is both yes and no.

We often focus somewhat sensationally and simplistically on the "yes" part of this complicated answer, and that obscures a more accurate picture of what it is like to be gay in probably the world’s most closed society.

This isn’t to dismiss the news of gay men being beheaded in Saudi Arabia. In January 2002, sketchy reports emerged about the beheading of three men in Abha, a city in the country’s southwest. The information was first published by the Arab News, an English-language daily in Riyadh, Saudi Arabia’s capitol. Citing a statement from the Interior Ministry, the paper reported the names of three men who had been beheaded January 1, 2002, for "engaging in the extreme obscenity and ugly acts of homosexuality, marrying among themselves and molesting the young." The report said the men repeated the acts (of alleged rape of minors) and assaulted people who tried to stop them.

Human rights groups, including Amnesty and the International Gay and Lesbian Human Rights Commission (IGLHRC), were unable to unearth any further details about the executions.

There have been other beheadings, too. For example, in July 2000, IGLHRC received reports that six gay men were executed in Saudi Arabia. But again, it’s been impossible to collect much meaningful information about the executions that would help us paint a clear picture of the circumstances.

From what I was able to determine while I was in Saudi Arabia, however, it seems unlikely that simply being discovered to be gay is sufficient to get you beheaded.

I was able to do in-depth interviews with five gay men—three in Riyadh, the largest city and the seat of government, and two in Jeddah, the country’s most progressive city. I found these men worrying more about how to meet others for sex and companionship, how to date and keep their sexual orientation secret, whether they would be forced by their families to marry, and what to wear to show off their bodies. Getting beheaded was just about the last thing on anyone’s mind.

All of the men I interviewed were well educated and highly sophisticated as gay men. They weren’t battling internal demons about their sexual orientation. They had all traveled outside Saudi Arabia, and were well aware of the intricate gay life possible beyond their borders. None of them were out to their families or employers, but all of them had gay friends, and some had even confided their secret in a few liberal straight friends.

I brought up the executions that had taken place earlier in the year, and asked point-blank if they feared dying should they be found out. None of the men seemed to know anything more about the executions than the rest of the world does. But they all scoffed at the notion that simply being discovered to be gay would lead to the death penalty.

"Our government controls information tightly, and excels in propaganda," says "Salim," a 46-year-old civil engineer with gray hair and a bushy mustache. "So I can’t tell you why those men died." Salim—who asked that his real name not be used—eloquently summarized most of what the other men had also told me.

"I can tell you there is more sex between men in Saudi Arabia than other places," he believes, largely because men simply do not have the opportunity to interact with women in Saudi society. If you are quiet about it, you can have as much sex with men as you want, he says, and it’s easy to find. "Sometimes I go to the mall, and I see men staring at me in that way, and I know what they want."

There are real dangers if the police discover men cruising or having sex, he admits, but the threat is not getting your head chopped off. "They might threaten to expose you to your family if you don’t pay them money, or they might [sexually] abuse you," says Salim. If you are arrested for gay conduct, the typical reaction, says Salim, is to be sent to a hospital for the equivalent of so-called "reparative therapy," that tries to make gays straight.

People are beheaded for murder, rape and drug smuggling, he insists. Not for being gay.

But, he adds, in a country where it is an act of rebellion for a woman to drive, anything that defies the strict social codes in Saudi Arabia could be construed as political. If as a gay person you are seen as ‘too open," in a way that might "threaten society"—meaning the heavy hand of the government—it’s possible you could be executed for being gay, the men I spoke to theorized. Or if you are seen as doing anything that might resemble gay political organizing—whether it be in the Western tradition, or on a much more basic level, such as trying to construct too much of a gay community— then your life might be in danger, the men I spoke to conceded.

"You have to remember," Salim says with caution, "the government does not tolerate threats of any nature."

Gay Life & Culture in Thailand

Straight or gay — the distinction isn't made in Thailand as it is in the U.S. In this largely Buddhist country, sex and sexuality come without the guilt and other baggage that accompany them here. Many Thais engage in sex with both men and women, without worrying about how to label themselves.

Thailand does have a gay culture, but much of it has been created by westerners. As a visitor, looking for nightlife, for gay sex, or for gay friends, this is largely the culture you'll most readily find. Here you'll meet outgoing and friendly Asian men who are interested in meeting westerners.

This can give the impression that most Thai men who we'd think of as gay are looking for westerners. That's not the case. But those you meet will often be interested in meeting Americans.

Thai culture does not place a premium on youth in the way that western societies do. If you're over 35, you probably feel over the hill in the U.S. You can still be quite desirable in Thailand. This comes as a pleasant surprise to middle-aged and older gay Americans!

Until quite recently, the visible, public gay establishments in Thailand were virtually all commercial: bars, go-go clubs, saunas, and massage parlors. These still account for the majority of gay spots, and you won't really have seen gay Thailand until you visit a go-go boy bar. But the largest cities now have a few discos, bars, or coffeehouses that lend themselves to non-commercial encounters, as well. The largest cities have gay karaoke bars and other establishments just for local gays. The best way to find them is to ask some locals.

Public discretion

"In America, you can say anything but you can't do it. In Thailand, you can do anything but you can't talk about it," noted one observer.

What two adults do in private is their own business in Thailand. Public displays of sexual affection, however, are considered highly inappropriate. Kissing in public is frowned upon.

This isn't an anti-gay prejudice: Heterosexual kissing is also unacceptable. In fact, it's amusing for American visitors to see two Thai men walking down the street arm-in-arm, when heterosexual Thai couples never do so. What's going on? The two men are non-sexual friends, and thus aren't crossing the line.

If you're seen

walking arm-in-arm with a Thai boyfriend, people can figure out what's going on. Your boyfriend may not mind, so if he takes the initiative in this direction, go right ahead. It's better for you not to initiate any public displays, however: You could put him in the uncomfortable position of having to choose between either offending you, or acting in a way he feels in inappropriate and embarrassing.

Modesty

Public discretion continues briefly in the bedroom. "I came out of the bathroom, and my date was already under the sheets," recalls Mike, a gay American visitor to Bangkok. "I peeled off my shorts, got in with C

hai — and discovered he was still wearing his t-shirt and underwear! I thought he must have lost interest somewhere along the line."

No — Chai was just being Thai. "A few kisses, a little cuddling, and that underwear was quickly gone. He turned out to be a real acrobat! We were on the floor, on the dresser, in positions I'd only dreamed of. There wasn't an inhibited bone in his body!"

Public nudity is verboten in Thailand. The country's few nude beaches are created, and largely populated, by Westerners. Even in the same-sex locker room at a gym, men often change clothes under a towel, and shower in private.

If you bring home a date, you may not see him naked before he gets under the sheets. But

once things get started, anything can happen.

Well, perhaps not anything. Few Thai men are interested in S/M, B/D, water sports, or much of anything beyond vanilla sex. Many are interested in being only a top, or only a bottom. If you're versatile, you're pretty sure of having a fun and uninhibited time. If you have specialized interests or expectations, discuss them in advance to avoid disappointment all around.

Katoeys

Cross-

dressing is far more accepted, and publicly widespread, in Thailand than in any other country. Males who cross-dress are referred to as katoeys, or ladyboys. Drag shows are popular at gay clubs, and also in many establishments catering largely to a straight clientele.

For Thais themselves

While Thais do not, by and large, make moral judgments about being gay, there remains a strong pressure to marry and have a family. Since they aren't into labeling themselves, it's common for Thai men to have predominantly same-sex relationships while in their twenties, then to marry and have kids, without feeling like they've switched from gay to straight.

An increasing number of Thai men do identify as gay. Frequently, just as in the U.S., they'll leave their hometown to get breathing room. Those in the plains and hills of the north and northeast generally move to Bangkok or Chiang-Mai. Those in Bangkok may go abroad for a few years.

Safety

Theft is rare, violence even rarer. But of course, there are no guarantees in life. It's always wise to keep valuables in the hotel safe when traveling, and not to tempt fate. Someone who came home with you only for love might reconsider if he sees a wallet on the dresser with the equivalent of a month of his wages — and realizes that to you, it's little more than enough for a night on the town.

The bars know who they hire, so taking home a bar boy creates an extra element of protection. In addition, it's common for hotels to request the ID's of overnight visitors, and your guests should be ready for this.

Being gay in australia

n many ways the Australian gay scene is similar to the scene in many other western countries, and it is usually fairly easy for visitors to understand Oz ways - the language is another story altogether, but "g'day mate" starts to sound natural after a while! If you are new to Australia, read on for some tips on being gay, the Australian gay scene, the law and HIV/AIDS in Australia. Also see the venue guide for information on the gay venues in Australia. Being Gay Australia today is a diverse multi-cultural society with many fairly well-accepted non-traditional lifestyles, including gay ones. However Australia's British/Christian background has meant a long hard fight to overcome some of the strong religious or legal obstacles to being gay here. Blatant homophobia, harassment or violence against gays used to be fairly common, but as with most other western countries the situation has improved considerably in recent years. Most levels of government in most states now actively act against discrimination based on sexual orientation to at least some extent. Violence and discrimination are not unknown however, and opposition from the extreme religious and political/social fringes is still common even to such broadly popular gay events as the Sydney Gay and Lesbian Mardi Gras. Despite the fairly high level of tolerance or acceptance, many gays are still closeted because of family attitudes or for religious reasons, or for fear of discrimination at work or in their community. and many feel isolated because support groups and social events are not evenly distributed, particularly in country areas. The more anonymous lifestyles of the bigger cities are an acceptable escape for some, while others take up the struggle of creating acceptance and support for gays in their local area.

Stereotypes still abound in Australia, and the typical Aussie "bloke" and his "mates" may still shout "poofter" at some "fuckin' queers", but the "fuckin' queers" are probably just as tied up in their butch or bitch or whatever roles as the "real blokes" are in theirs. To keep breaking down the stereotypes, positive gay role models are increasingly common, with openly gay politicians, teachers, and characters in TV shows - which is not to say that other gays in politics, education or the arts don't have a hard time, like England and the US Australia has its share of those outed and/or ousted in the line of duty. So all in all it is mixed a bag, but for most a great place to be gay - either permanently or as a visitor! The Gay Scene in Australia Sydney and Melbourne both offer a diverse collection of gay bars, discos, restaurants and saunas as well as sex shops and other "sex on premises" venues and cruising spots and beats. The major organised gay events tend to be concentrated thee as well, such as Mardi Gras and the major dance parties and events like the Sleaze Ball, Pride, and Mid-Summa. But the smaller capitals cities and even some country centres have well-established and thriving gay scenes as well. Social and support networks also provide an alternative for those wanting to get away from the pressure, noise, drinking or emphasis on sex/youth/beauty in the bar and club scene. Commercial sex services are also available in most areas, with escort services, brothels and massage services listed in the local phone books, the gay press and tourist publications in most large cities and tourist areas. It is not unknown for gays to be attacked or verbally abused by homophobic types in areas known to be frequented by gays - either parks or beats, or sometimes in areas with many gay venues, particularly late at night/early in the morning. Be cautious if walking alone in areas you do not know, but if you have any problems report them to the police - see the special numbers in the gay groups listings.

Is It Better to be Gay in the Philippines?

Editor's Note: Americans often think the United States is the world's most accepting places for gay, lesbian and transgender people. But a young gay American man finds out differently in the mostly Catholic, socially conservative Philippines.

During my trip to the Philippines, my cousin introduced me to people in her high school ROTC program. Carrying paper fans, her male friends skipped toward me from the back of their exercise lines. They called me guapo, or "handsome" in Tagalog.

I blushed, having never been approached before by flamers in fatigues.

I was surprised to find that in the mostly Catholic society of my homeland, gay culture is more tolerated than in America. From nightlife to the media, baklas (Tagalog for gays) are the norm. The strangest part of the entire experience was realizing that although I'm a gay male, as an American I was uncomfortable with such tolerance.

While the recent court ban on gay marriages in San Francisco -- as well as President Bush's proposed constitutional amendment outlawing gay marriage -- attacks me personally, my visit to the Philippines taught me the only way to counteract fear of the unknown is to try to understand it. During my trip, I did just that.

Though a fairly conservative country, the Philippines oozes sex, especially in its gay club scene. I paid five dollars to get into BED, one of Manila's hottest gay clubs. Inside, I was immediately struck by the club's musky heat. I never made it to the bar in the back because the club was too crowded. Sweaty men were standing so close together that no one could move their arms to dance.

Almost every guy had the same look: spiked hair, plucked eyebrows, fitted jeans, white collared shirts with the top button undone and the sleeves rolled halfway up. Some men even wore sunglasses in the club. In the Philippines, smoking and crowded rooms are everywhere, and I found the club nauseating.

Outside, I noticed a few white men who stood tall among the short Filipinos. Then there were the cross-dressers, skinny and without breasts. At an outdoor bar, my cousin broke down the Filipino gay scene. She said some of the men are actually heterosexual, with girlfriends at home. But it's common for closeted gay men to pay straight men for their "company." The straight men then spend the money on their girlfriends, who don't know where it comes from.

My cousin said you can spot a gay man or a "straight gigolo" in the Philippines by looking for those dressed in "couture" fashion. And since the Philippines is a developing country where medicine is costly, male cross-dressers can't afford the hormones for breasts. "Professional" drag queens tend to be of the upper class. She said straight gigolos are so common that almost any Filipino's "gay-dar" is finely tuned.

In my hotel room that night, I watched a man dressed as a goth sing Madonna's "Broken" on MTV Philippines. On another channel, a girl in a soap opera was crying, asking her brother if the reason he is so distant is because he's gay.

Later on during my stay, I took a field trip to ABS-CBN, the Philippines' most popular television station. I sat in the audience during a three-hour variety show. While everyone watched contestants run around, I watched a few male crewmembers kiss each other.

In the Philippines, I was aware of almost every gay interaction or innuendo. But no Filipino seemed to give any such occurrences a second glance. Upon returning to San Francisco, I realized that in the so-called "gay Mecca" of the United States, most public displays of gay affection take place only in the Castro district. Gays in the media have only recently increased in presence. And gays who act flamboyant in the hood are asking to get beat.

I was overwhelmed by the Philippines' social acceptance of gays. It was also fascinating to see how men in a different country interpreted femininity: thin bodies, long hair, thick layers of makeup. But what was most surprising was how much I, as a gay man, noticed these things while my straight friends there didn't even care.

Growing up in America, I tried my hardest to be the best person I could -- never working less than two jobs for five years, graduating college with honors, and being one of the most driven members of student government -- all because I didn't think anyone would accept who I really was. So when I saw pictures of 70-year-old lesbians crying and hugging each other after getting married in San Francisco, I thought that finally, it's possible that I might actually be treated as an equal in American society.

But it looks like it may be awhile before I experience the same type of acceptance here that I experienced in the Philippines. I question President Bush and other policy makers when they describe America as a model nation for the rest of the world, especially for developing countries. How can they say that when they don't even understand the people they're supposed represent here in this country?

Being gay in Hollywood

Here's an interesting AP article on gay actors in Hollywood (including television) and how the industry actually seems to be trailing the public in acceptance. The notion seems to be that while the public has greeted the recent public announcements from the likes of T.R. Knight and Neil Patrick Harris with a shrug, it's still difficult for gays to make it past casting agents and producers, especially for heterosexual roles.

Part of the reason most people didn't care all that much about Knight and Harris' announcements is that they had already established themselves as straight characters on their respective shows. It's those who are openly gay and trying to land straight roles that seem to be facing an uphill battle.

Homophobia could be blamed for part of this, but I think it's also a product of how the Hollywood system works. It's not enough to just be an actor these days: you also have to contend with having your private life under scrutiny at all times, and although that has nothing to do with a person's acting chops, it's a fact all actors, regardless of their sexual orientation, have to deal with. Perhaps someday we'll wise up and not become so obsessed with what a person does when not in front of the camera, but I doubt that'll ever happen in my lifetime.

'I had a one-night stand an hour after we met in a gay Net

A BISEXUAL civil engineer told last night how he had "frantic" late-night sex with Lib-Dem leadership hopeful Simon Hughes less than an hour after meeting him on a gay website.

Greg Nesbett, 28, said he met up with the MP after exchanging messages in the early hours of the morning in an internet chatroom on Gay.com.

He said: "It was rapid and businesslike, he made contact with me in the chatroom, came to my house then we got straight into it. "Within an hour, I was having sex with a man twice my age. I was happy when it was over. And it soon was."

The website has sections for dating, chat, gay weddings, clubbing and HIV advice. New features on the chat page are for "rough sex" and "XXX pictures". At any time there can be up to 20,000 members in the site's chatrooms. Last night the Hughes scandal was leading Gay.com news section.

Greg told how he logged on to the site using the name GregSW3- 25, a nickname that revealed his whereabouts and age at around 2am on a week night in the summer of 2002.

In his profile he stipulated that he was a "bottom" looking for a "top".

Hughes' profile stated his age but did not have a photograph or state anything about his own sexual tastes.

Reading Greg's profile and seeing the picture of the handsome engineer, the then 50-year-old MP for North Bermondsey and Southwark made the approach with little romance or delay.

He told Greg he was "active" and wanted sex within the hour.

Greg invited him to his one-bedroom Chelsea flat. Soon after, he heard his doorbell ring and invited the mystery man upstairs.

"Greg said: "I hadn't bothered to clean the flat for him - we both knew that this wasn't a date. I was wearing just my tee-shirt and shorts. He was wearing a collared shirt and trousers.

"I immediately recognised him as Simon Hughes because my family has always been interested in politics, but I didn't say anything, that wasn't what it was all about. There was no time for a drink or chit-chat. We went straight into my bedroom and took off our own clothes.

"We quickly got down to business. He was very eager and enthusiastic, but he wasn't a great-looking man -let's be honest. He had a pronounced pot-belly.

"There wasn't really any kissing - I didn't want that. He was business-like, knew what he wanted and he knew what I wanted." Greg said Hughes left soon after, without indicating whether he wanted to see him again.

"And that was fine with me, it's just the way it works with these gay websites. From his performance you wouldn't think he was terribly experienced, but you never know."

He was born in Israel, where his family still live, but has taken the English name Greg.

The engineer was born in Israel but has taken the English name Greg. He said he did not want to come forward with his story before Hughes had come clean about his sexuality.

Greg said: "I never wanted to do him any damage. I know how hard it is to come out. Lib-Dem voters are not closed-minded - I don't think this will isolate his constituents."

A spokesman for the MP said: "Mr Hughes' private life is a matter that will remain private and we will be making no further comment on his private life."

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This goes out for the often rejected and frustrated gay lovers or to coin it short: ACCESS DENIED!

I happen to be one of them. In the Philippines, gay communities or most commonly termed here as the BISEXUALS (actually, they''re not even bisexuals. Most often, they credit themselves as one as either top or bottom but apparently, they are all homosexuals) have a less serious perception of a hook-up.

Here in my country, as in my opinion, you can rarely find a true blue bisexual. Many are actually calling themselves a bisexual but apparently they are not. The trend here is shortly becoming westernized as is. Less than a decade ago, you can automatically point out a real gay on the streets. They wore skirts, tight fitted blouses with fake boobs and fake hips, wore make-ups and even had their eyebrows plucked.

During those times, men viewed Gays as a mere outcast in the society. Most gays are victims of cruelty, racism, and physical and emotional abuse. They are just unaccepted in the society.

Early 21st century when the gay society in the philippines started evolving. Like in western cultures that you find gay men as an ADONIS with perfectly toned bodies and looks like a real man. No make-ups, no plucked eyebrows, and most of all not wearing womens clothings (except of course for drag queens and thats another story). They are called the closet queens. Apparently, the cross-dressers still exist nowadays and the numbers are still large....

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How to Celebrate V-day

When you’re gay. One writer shares some inspired and inspiring ideas for you to try this year.

For even the most romantically-inclined people (and not just those who are single), Valentine’s Day is a holiday that can be anticipated with some combination of cynicism and dread. To a suitor overwhelmed by the sheer variety of candy hearts available, February 14 can appear to mean more to the folks selling the greeting cards and diamonds than those buying them.

And when you’re gay, the abundance of cards featuring the cute little boy and girl holding hands and the ads encouraging the manly husband to buy a big rock for his swooning wife can make the cynicism come in spades. No Defense of Valentine’s Day Amendment has yet been proposed to Congress, but the one holiday of the year dedicated strictly to romance clearly has something of a heterosexual target audience and is marketed as such.

But just as we all — gay or straight — share the ability to love, we all have the right to indulge the parts of ourselves that really like getting flowers and chocolate and, yes, even cards with sappy poems. While doing so, we can also embrace being gay, support the gay community, and make our relationships more visible to the rest of the world. As Sara Leone, 44, from Mystic, CT, says, “Visibility is important on Valentine’s Day—simply to make the holiday more about love as opposed being about ‘this one buys flowers, this one coos with delight.’” Whether you want to a make a statement that’s subtle or strong or are simply looking for a few ideas, read on and have a Gay Valentine’s Day.

Get out of town
Whether you’re hitting the slopes or heading south to the beach, a trip out of town can create lasting memories for a new relationship or put the spark back into a long-term partnership. However, if you want to avoid the fisheye from the hotel clerk or innkeeper that every traveling gay couple has had to deal with at one time or another when requesting the room with a two-person Jacuzzi tub, do a little work before you hit the road. Janet Tompkins, 32, from St. Louis, MO, says, “I’ve had too many romantic weekends get off to an awkward start when the guy at the front desk sees me with my girlfriend, looks strangely at the reservation, then asks if we want two double beds. Now when I make a reservation by phone or email, I mention my partner, Kimberly, by name when I say that there will be double occupancy. It takes away some of the anxiety.” And there are some online resources that can help you out. Both Bluway (www.bluway.com) and Gaything.blogspot.com (www.gaything.blogspot.com) offer resources for the savvy gay traveler, including gay-friendly destinations, lodging, and attractions. In addition, several mainstream travel booking sites have resources for finding gay and lesbian-friendly travel deals and accommodations. You might also want to check out Gay Friendfinder (http://gayfriendfinder.com/go/g899716-pmem), a new review web site targeted specifically to gay and lesbian travelers. After your trip, you can post a review to pass on the word to fellow romance-seekers.

Pay gay
It may sound cliché, but a romantic dinner and a bottle of wine really never go out of style. As writer Rich Juzwiak, 28, from New York, says, “My boyfriend and I generally attach very little weight to Valentine’s Day as we aren’t very sentimental or wrapped up in tradition. So, really, it’s just an excuse for us to go out to eat and then have sex. Which we’d probably do anyway, but you know, it’s nice to have a destination date.”

But as you gaze into each other’s eyes by soft candlelight and spoon crème brûlée into your sweetie’s mouth, you can do double duty by supporting restaurants and businesses that are part of or supportive of the gay community as well. If you’re not sure where to go, there are plenty of resources, both online and available locally, for you to tap into. If you live in the New England area, the Gay Friendfinder provide an excellent inventory of gay-owned and gay-friendly businesses listed by region. You can download the listings for free online (or order a copy) and also find links to gay and lesbian organizations in other states. The Out Personal (http://outpersonals.com/go/g899716-ppc) provide a similar service on a national scale for both the U.S. and Canada or even the whole world. And don’t forget to pick up a copy of your local gay newsmagazine and check out the advertisers. Do a quick scan for gay-friendly florists while you’re at it and you’ll have a night to remember that’s also giving back to the community.

Rent gay
In the mood to stay in and cuddle on the couch, but want something a little more gay-Valentine’s-worthy to watch than the latest episode of Law and Order (or the new romance DVD release featuring the beautiful female ingénue improbably falling for the older, well-established actor)? Look no further than Cams (http://promo.cams.com/promo/randomcam.jsp?pid=g899716-pct ), a guide to queer cyber cam that’s searchable by subject, year, country, and target audience. And don’t forget about the gay and lesbian sections at your local video store or on Netflix.

Be together
And finally, don’t underestimate the statement that you make when you are simply, casually, undeniably together publicly with your partner on Valentine’s Day. Juzwiak says, “On a day devoted to outward signs of love, I think it’s vital to be part of the societal chorus. I think visibility — a constant presence everywhere — can be much more striking than a pride parade that’s easily avoided. This isn’t to say that I’m overt about my relationship in public—my boyfriend and I don’t even hold hands on the street. But I think it’s clear that we’re a couple, especially if we’re sitting together in a restaurant on Valentine’s Day, and I like the quiet, firm message in that.”

The World's Gayest City

While just about every locale can boast it is unique in some way or other, nowhere can compare to Amsterdam for throwing out the welcome mat to gays and lesbians.

This ancient city, which goes back to the 1st century BC, has built a reputation on liberal attitudes, warm hearts, and moderate prices. Amsterdam Pride, held each year in August, is an experience I can only describe as going to the mother church of gayness.

Holland is the only country in the world to have complete civil rights for gays, including marriage. So, it is altogether fitting that it should also have a memorial to gays. The Homomonument, situated on the Westermarkt in the center of Amsterdam, was unveiled on September 5th 1987.

The monument was designed to inspire and support lesbians and gays in their struggle against denial, oppression and discrimination. It is also a memorial to the men and women of the past who were oppressed and persecuted because of their sexual feelings.

The Homomonument is above all a living monument. It is a permanent confrontation with the existence of homosexuality. As for nightlife, you will find something for any taste, from saunas to high energy dance clubs, to leather and fetish clubs.

And, when you come up for air, you will want to to visit some of the city's other sites. The canals which provide an easy way of getting through town are lined with historic homes and museums. The Pride parade floats down the canals creating a flowing rainbow flag.

You will also want to visit the Anne Frank House, a museum that marks the place where the Jewish girl and family hid out from the Nazi occupation during World War II.

The Stedelijk Museum is Amsterdam's main modern art museum. And, the Rijksmuseum is the city's repository for Dutch masters (Rembrandt, Vermeer and many others).

Gayest Country

MORE than 17 per cent of Australians are involved in gay or lesbian relationships, putting the country equal first in the world for its proportion of homosexuals, according to a new worldwide survey.

The survey of sexual habits by international condom maker Durex found that together with Americans, Australians had the highest proportion of same-sex relationships.

At the other end of the scale, Vietnam recorded the lowest proportion of gay and lesbian relationships, at three per cent.

The company said Australians enjoyed a busy love life, having sex on average 125 times per year.

Hungarians came out on top, having sex 152 times per year.

But Australians were still ahead of Americans, at 118 times a year.

The survey also found phone, text and cyber sex were gaining in popularity in Australia, with 43 per cent indulging in "virtual reality sex".

The company said faking orgasms was also common in Australia, with 47 per cent of respondents admitting to doing so at least once.

This was almost twice the global average of 26 per cent.

The survey found 41 per cent of Australian men and women had sex for the first time because they were in love, and most agreed that more foreplay would improve their sex life.

The company said more than 150,000 people took part in the on-line survey, which was now in its seventh year.

The Top Ten Male Pubic Hair Shaving Tips

Male pubic hair shaving tips are always in demand because while shaving male pubic hair is not all that hard to do, getting the desired results of smooth skin that's free of irritation is not all that easy. Unless you know the top ten male pubic hair shaving tips and use them every time you shave.

So let's get straight to it shall we? Here are the latest top ten male pubic hair shaving tips:

1) Don't start your pubic hair shaving when you first get up after sleeping. Body fluids have made your skin puffy, which makes it harder for the razor to get close to the hair follicle, the skin depression from which the hair grows. If you allow about 20-30 minutes, your skin will become more taut and the hair shafts more exposed. Besides, you definitely want to be fully awake and alert before shaving your pubic area.

2) Don't even think about starting your pubic hair shaving unless you're totally straight.

3) If you're pubic hair shaving for the first time, or maybe it's been a while, and you have long pubic hairs, trim them with scissors or better yet, a hair trimmer.

4) Take a long, hot shower or bath. This will open the follicles and soften your naturally coarse pubic hairs to make pubic hair shaving easier.

5) Apply a generous amount of a rich lubricant. Allow this to sit for at least 5 minutes before you begin pubic hair shaving.

6) ALWAYS use a new blade in your razor for each pubic hair shaving.

The pubic mound is easy to shave. As long as you start by shaving with the way the hair grows first, before you shave against the way the hair grows.

Here are the latest top male pubic hair shaving tips for the penis:

7) Shave the penis in the direction the hair grows, making sure you shave all sides. If it isn't already erect, gently pull your penis upwards. This will make it easier to shave.

Here are the latest top male pubic hair shaving tips for the scrotum:

8) To shave the scrotum, you'll need an easy and clear view. Create a space with comfortable seating, placing a towel underneath you, in front of a mirror. Make sure there's enough light to see the individual hairs.

Have a table or something on the side where you can place a clean dry towel and a container of warm water to rinse your razor. Allow your razor to soak in the warm water for a short while before you shave.

Slowly and gently, stretch and flatten the skin of the scrotum with your free hand and shave towards the inner thigh with the other.

Remember - The scrotum skin is quite soft and more importantly, very thin, so - BE CAREFUL.

9) After you've removed the bulk of hairs, go back over these areas, only this time shave against the way the hair grows. This will give you the close, clean and smooth pubic shaving you're looking for.

10) Don't shave the same area more than this second time or apply too much pressure. The last thing you want is razor burns, rashes and bumps on your penis or scrotum.

Okay - Now you know the top ten male pubic hair shaving tips. And if you use them every time you shave, you'll get the desired results of smooth skin that's free of irritation.

There is one more tip that should be included in your kit of top male pubic hair shaving tips - There is a better tool than a wet razor for shaving your pubic hair

Male armpit hair

Some males prefer to shave their armpit hair. Fashion magazines tell us that nowadays it’s completely normal for males to shave their underarms on a weekly basis. But how many males really do it? What is the reason behind it? Unlike women, having hair in their underarms doesn’t look unattractive. The trend is to wax or shave certain parts of the body.

Most of the males who shave their armpits say they do so because of the hygienic reasons. Some do so because they can’t go on the beach with hairy armpits. But for the vast majority it’s the feeling of freshness what makes them shaving their armpits on a regular basis.

There is nothing wrong about it and if it makes you feel comfortable then all power to you. If you have never done and then should be aware of one thing – it will itch. Either you walk, eat or work, there is a constant friction in your underarms. This is probably the only drawback of shaving your armpits.

There are many ways how you can remove your armpit hair. Some techniques remove your hair permanently while others do the job for a few days. Some of them are expensive while others cost you nearly nothing. Let’s look on them one by one:

1. Shaving – this is probably the most common way how to get rid of your underarm hair. There is not much to be said about it. You want to shave it with help of shaving foam or some kind of gel. Otherwise it will hurt. Hair shampoo will do the job too.

What are the advantages of this technique? Well, probably the biggest advantage is that it will cost you close to nothing. You’ll need only razor and some shaving liquid.

What are the disadvantages? You’ll have to do it often. And the more often you shave off the hair the harder it will get. And the harder it will get the more irritating it will be for you. Friction in your underarms is really big. You might not realise it when you have hair but 2 – 3 days after you shave it off you will feel the irritation with every little move you make.

Try it once and you’ll see if you can bear with it. If you don’t mind little pinching then you might want to continue with this technique. After all most of people shave their underarm hair with razor so it can’t be that bad. You’ll get used to it, maybe.

2. Waxing – ouuch! Some people can’t bear the pain when hair is pulled off their skin. If you don’t have problems with that than this is a bit better and longer lasting solution to your armpit hair. Don’t expect any miracles though. Your hair will grow back, it will only take longer.

3. Hair Removal Tool – your another chance how to get rid of your underarm hair is to purchase a hair removal tool. Most of the producers claim that their tool will remove the hair permanently and without any pain. I suggest reading some readers’ reviews before you buy anything. I find reviews on Amazon for Hair Removal under the product section very useful.

4. Cosmetic Studio – this is the costly but most effective way how to get your armpits nicely smooth. Look for a studio near the area where you live. There is a good chance you’ll find one.

He is HOT!

One of the hottest Tv host in Asia. he is witty, hot and sexy. Can make your nights into day and cn make your bed smooth and wonderful. With this kind of guy you have in your bed and as your boyfriend. You would not ask for more.

Name: Marc Nelson

Country: Philippines

Occupation: TV Host/Model

Birthdate: February 14

Height: 5′11″Weight: 155 lbs.

Shoe Size: 10

Eye color: Dark Brown

Hair Color: Black

Interest: going to the gym

A question has been running into our mind is that ïf he is one of us". He has this characteristics like us. Which can make him one of us. Good looking, witty, sexy, funny, too smart not to be gay, and conscious to how he looks.

Right now he is in Amazing Race Asia 2 together with Rovilson. Is Rovilson his hidden boyfriend? Or they are just friend and nothing else. Who knows, only then who knew and know about it.